Resilience is your capacity to bounce back after a setback of any kind. Resilience is also your capacity to persevere and come through the other side of tough times.

There are a lot of helpful studies on resilience. Nowadays there are courses which can assist you with techniques and skills to develop your resilience. Some are helpful.

The stress of tough times, conflict and cumulative sadness can have a wearing effect on our capacity to bounce back. Some people struggle more than others. Some actually rise and almost thrive under pressure.

Resilience Starts With Self-Respect

Self-respect is your primary source of resilience. You can learn skills and techniques to try to become more resilient. However, if you have poor self-respect, then you will always struggle under pressure.

Healthy self-Respect is based in self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-love.It is underpinned with humility, which enables peace, security, and confidence, and positions you for strength in life. For more: see How To Develop Self-Respect

Self-Respect will:

  1.  Enable resilience for you to endure tough times and to rise with renewed determination and vision after setbacks, failure and seasons of struggle.
  2. Give you a firm foundation, like bedrock, to help you stand when others disrespect you
  3. Stop you from turning on yourself when all else is stripped away and you feel awful
  4. Enable you to step back and regain perspective during tough times.

No-one enjoys tough times.

The best way to make sure you are resilient during tough times is to develop your self-respect. In those seasons, self-respect will hold you. Learn whatever skills you like, go to courses; but make sure you are working on you in order to become the best version of you possible.

Interestingly, when you have resilience based in healthy self-respect, the seasons of stripping away (pruning) often prove beneficial. They remind you of who you really are, and help you refocus on what is most important in life.

And, even more interesting, I have found that enduring and rising again from tough times is a source of ongoing and even stronger self-respect.

Your capacity to bounce back will be in proportion to the health of your self-respect. Resilience is part of the strength that self-respect positions you for in life.


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